How to help your child with addiction is a question that has largely remained unanswered by mainstream recovery. The answer to that question becomes even more cloudy and ambiguous for parents who are struggling with an addicted child. The main option is intervention and forced treatment. That course of action is rarely successful. I believe in most cases it does more harm than good. No one likes being forced to do anything. Those who concede typically do so as an act of appeasement. If you go kicking and screaming, then you won’t apply much effort. Addiction freedom is a willful act. If you want to get your son or daughter off drugs or alcohol, there is a better way.
Addiction is not a disease
Mainstream recovery claims that addiction is a disease. But, there is simply no empirical evidence to back it up. Sure, the National institute on Drug abuse will show you brain scan after scan highlighting changes in brain chemistry caused by drugs and alcohol. However, that simply demonstrates the effect, not the cause. Drugs and alcohol are brain and mind altering substances. Tell us something that most folks don’t know. The truth would be good. The truth is; mainstream experts are way off base about why teens use drugs. They are even further form the mark regarding how to parent an addicted child.
The options are limited
Irrespective of the truth, mainstream recovery forges ahead with a baseless theory. The primary modality use to treat addiction is the 12-step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. This program has a success rate of roughly 5-7 percent. The other option is psychoactive drug therapy. Mainstream recovery references this type of treatment as science-based. I would ask; where is the science. In short, to help your addicted child, you must choose between your child standing in front of strangers, on a weekly basis, and professing that he or she is an alcoholic or addict, or you can addict them to prescription drugs instead of illicit drugs. The truth is; addiction is a form of emotional escape. Over the past eight years, I have proven this not just in theory but in practice as well. If you stand and face the music, you won’t have to run from the band. To get your child off drugs, teach him or her how to face adversity.
Diagramming the pitfall of addiction
I spent eight years studying addiction. I have helped dozens of clients overcome it. From that research and experience, I developed an addiction diagram. In my diagram, I break down the aspects in 4 levels: Generators, Catalyzers, Paralyzers and Drivers. At the foundation, addiction is generated in patterns of family, relationship dynamics. It is carried or channeled by the catalyzers. Addictive behavior is then perpetuated by the paraylzers. And, finally, it is fueled by the drivers; anxiety, emotional distress and/or depression. Therefore, addiction is emotionally based. What you need to do when your child is abusing drugs is help him or her address the emotional issues.
How to help your child with addiction
If you want to learn how to help your child with addiction, you must educate and enlighten yourself on the foundation and the 3 steps for fostering an addiction-free kid.
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